In the grand scheme of things, no one is special

No One is Special in The Bigger Picture

November 19, 2020

“But no one is special,” she said, “we’re all but space dust. A mere speck in the universe. Our existence or non-existence doesn’t matter. In future years, you and me, we’ll just be lying in the great void, without us even knowing, without anyone remembering.”

Have you ever stood under the night sky just to look up at the billions of stars in space? I remember doing this as a young kid in my grandparents’ backyard in a small Southeast Asian village. Even as a young child, I remember being fascinated by the innumerable stars in the sky.

If you’ve never done this – give it a go one day.

It’s an interesting feeling, seeing the stars. The universe is so large and vast that you could try to count all the stars in the sky for the rest of your life and still never find an endpoint.

And yet, here we are. Looking up, aware that we are observing the sky.

There’s an inherent double-edged nature that comes with being human. On one side, we exist. On the flip side, we know we exist. Somewhere in the middle, we get caught up. Caught up in our emotions, in our day to day lives, in our problems, and in the small part of the universe that is our mind.

In the grand scheme of things? We are really small, and our worries and fears are even smaller. It’s easy to attach our worries and fears to our existence. It’s easy to perceive ourselves through what others think of us and be critical of ourselves. We’ve all learned how to do these things since we were children. However, it’s not benefiting our beautiful existence.

We exist, and that is a concrete fact.

We exist in a society that is always on the go, always advancing in technology, and always moving. That is also a concrete fact. The thoughts and emotions we are thinking and feeling are merely a repercussion of this go-go-go society we live in. But it’s important to know that it’s not our fault. It’s not our fault that we are thinking negatively, stressed, and worried.

It’s also important to allow ourselves to take responsibility for these thoughts and emotions and let them flow within us. When we are ready to let these feelings go, we will.

We also exist in the universe. A large and ever-expanding universe. A universe outside the boundaries of Earth. Yes, we live in a society, but that’s not all there is to existence. Like a grain of sand on a beach, we are but a grain of sand in the universe. Ask yourself if these negative thoughts and feelings you are experiencing really matter in the overall universe.

We should allow ourselves to feel peace in just existing.

When things get too overwhelming, try to bring yourself to the present moment. A helpful way for me to combat anxious and negative feelings is the 5-4-3-2-1 anxiety coping technique. It’s an exercise where you need to use all of your five senses as a tool. Look around and acknowledge five things that you see and four things that you can touch. Listen and notice three things that you hear. Smell the air, and identify two things that you smell. Feel the sensations inside and outside of your body, and finally, do you taste anything?

I find this a powerful way to bring myself to the present moment and can be a helpful tool to use during an anxiety or panic attack.

Again, in the grander scheme of things, we are all just a small part of everything. No one’s special. We’re all but space dust. A mere speck in the universe. Our existence or non-existence doesn’t matter. In future years, we’ll just be lying in the great void, without us even knowing, without anyone remembering.

Our cosmic existence is insignificant. No one is special.

That said, I find it a comfortable feeling to know that I’m not alone in this. So, the next time you look up at the stars, try to find a little peace within yourself.


  1. zel santos

    Never heard of 5-4-3-2-1 anxiety coping technique before thanks for sharing that I will definitely try that technique whenever I’m having anxiety attack. I’ve always been a negative thinker and sometimes I let other people’s words get into me and it affects me so much. I’m glad that I saw your blog, reading your blog is very calming.

    • Devin Elias

      This technique is also very new to me. I usually do what I was taught as a child; count to 10 slowly and take deep breaths with each count. By simply reading this I feel it will be more effective and I look forward to using this new technique.

      • Anthony

        Hey Devin, you got it! Children use the 5-4-3-2-1 technique unconsciously when playing. this counting down pushes away the bad feelings and you make room for new, more positive thoughts. We adults are so engrossed in being adults that we forget that if we stay a little child, we can solve the problems ourselves 🙂

  2. Jennifer Rosello

    That coping technique sounds very interesting. I am one who suffer from anxiety and can see the benefit of slowing down and taking in all the things going on around me. Using my senses to calm my nerves and re-emerging my spirit. Relaxing my mind to bring me back into the present moment is just what I need. I am an extremely busy Executive assistant full time, and managing another persons schedule brings my anxiety to a 10 most days of the week. This could be very useful. Thank you.

  3. Lucas Meyer

    I have been battling my anxiety for years now and music really helps, never really opened myself to new ways of dealing with it. I will definitely try it though. Thanks


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