Human nature is neither black nor white, kind nor evil, nor any of those contrasting metaphors. For every hero has their demon, and every villain has their story.
Many people often exude binary thinking. If you didn’t already know what that is, it basically means looking at things in absolutes. Something has to be one or the other. For instance, if you are looking at an idea, it has to be either right or wrong. If you are looking at a person, they have to be good or bad, pure or evil, etc.
This type of thinking is extremely limited for obvious reasons. It keeps you from taking a more nuanced view on things, situations, and people, and a majority of reality simply becomes imperceptible to you. This is especially with people. Human nature is one of the most complex, dynamic, and multi-dimensional things you can think of. And if you approach it with a binary perspective, a lot can go wrong.
Therefore, it is crucial to understand and be aware of the depths of human behavior. Doing so can provide you with remarkable insights into the workings of the human mind and even help you understand yourself as an individual. It can also help you take a deeper dive into people’s stories and appreciate their motivations.
Human Nature is Multiple Shades of Grey
Perhaps the best way to describe the full spectrum of human nature is by comparing it with a color scale. If black and white are the extreme ends of this color scale, then there are countless shades of grey in between. Each of these shades represents a unique aspect of human nature. So, confining it to only good (white) or bad (black) is unreasonable and unjust.
Also, except for a handful of things, most actions of a human simply can’t be categorized as absolutely good or evil. There is no universal book of conduct for reference for that purpose. Even if it existed, it would be rendered useless due to the complexity of human nature. At the end of the day, what is good for one may be bad for the other and vice versa. After all, every hero has their demon, and every villain has their story.
Let’s take an example to understand this better. You may want to live a solitary life, away from too much human contact. For you, this is the right way to live your life. However, others might say that this is bad and not a proper way to live. In this case, who is to say what’s right and what’s wrong? The answer is that there is no fixed answer. It all depends on the individual person and their unique perspective. For you, it’s the right to do, and for the others, it might be the wrong thing. However, when it comes to your life, other people’s opinions shouldn’t matter.
This applies to you too. When you are looking at other people, it is critical to not dwell only on the surface. You need to go deeper and understand their stories with an open mind. Know that it’s all relative, and they have their own motivations shaped by their unique life experiences. If this realization spreads throughout the human race, the world would instantly be a much better place.